"Amelia, I'm sorry that you and Nathan never told each other, but I don't appreciate you changing the subject. You're trying to manipulate me into feeling sorry for you."

She's forgiving. She's not stupid. It'd be smart to remember the difference.

"If you can't differentiate between times when you need to defend yourself and times when you're not in real danger, then you need to seek professional help. There are people, special doctors, who can help you learn better ways of dealing with your feelings. If you like, I'll help you find one to work with."